🧠UNSHAKEN: Energy Vampires – Why Some People Leave You Drained – Ep. 8

Unshaken — Series 3, Episode 8

The Nomad Build – UNSHAKEN
By Ángel Luis López – The Nomad Build
Category: Mindset / Self-Mastery / Freedom
Location: Bogotá, Colombia

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling exhausted —
even though nothing physical happened?

No work.
No argument.
No real effort.

Just… drained.

That feeling isn’t random.

Some people don’t break you with force.
They drain you slowly.

And if you don’t learn how to recognize them, they’ll quietly take more from you than you realize.

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The Truth Most People Learn Too Late

Here’s something I learned the hard way:

Not everyone who smiles at you is good for you.
Not everyone who needs you deserves access to you.
And not everyone who’s close to you is safe to be around.

Some people survive by feeding on the energy of others.

They don’t build.
They don’t carry weight.
They consume.

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The Constant Complainers

You know this type.

Nothing is ever their fault.
Life is always unfair.
Someone is always holding them back.

You listen.
You advise.
You empathize.

But nothing changes.

And after every conversation, you notice something important:

They feel lighter.
You feel heavier.

That’s not connection.
That’s extraction.

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Drama-Addicted Personalities

Then there are the chaos people.

Their life is always on fire.
There’s always a crisis.
Always urgency.
Always emotional noise.

If your life is calm, structured, and focused — they’ll either:

• Pull you into their chaos, or
• Create drama around you

Because peace makes them uncomfortable.

Stability exposes disorder.

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Lazy Opportunists

These people don’t show up to build.

They show up when they need:

• Your time
• Your knowledge
• Your support
• Your connections

But when responsibility is required, they disappear.

They’re not malicious.
They’re parasitic.

They attach themselves to people who move forward because they don’t want to move themselves.

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Emotional Dependence (The Most Dangerous One)

This one often looks like loyalty.

These people don’t want you to grow —
they want you to stay available.

They depend on you to regulate their emotions.
Their stability depends on your presence.
Your absence makes them anxious.

And when you pull back?

• Guilt
• Accusations
• Emotional pressure

That’s not love.
That’s dependence.

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How I Recognized This in My Own Life

For a long time, I thought I was tired because I was working too hard.

But that wasn’t it.

I was tired because I was carrying people who refused to carry themselves.

The moment I created distance — not anger, not conflict — just distance —
my clarity returned.

That’s when I understood something important:

Energy vampires don’t usually attack.
They attach.

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Why Capable People Attract Them

If this keeps happening to you, it’s not because you’re weak.

It’s because you’re capable.

People who lack structure are drawn to those who have it.
People who lack direction look for someone grounded.
People who lack emotional control seek someone calm.

And if you don’t protect your energy, they will use it.

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The Solution: Energy Protection

Here’s the rule that changes everything:

Access is earned — not assumed.

You are not obligated to:

• Answer every call
• Fix every problem
• Absorb every emotion
• Be available to everyone

Boundaries aren’t cruelty.
They’re self-respect.

Strong people protect their energy because they understand the cost of losing it.

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A Simple Test

After every interaction, ask yourself:

• Do I feel clearer — or heavier?
• Do I feel focused — or scattered?
• Do I feel energized — or drained?

Your body knows the truth before your mind does.

Listen to it.

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The Truth to Remember

Some people don’t break you with force.
They drain you slowly.

And the most dangerous ones aren’t loud.

They’re familiar.

Protect your energy.
Protect your focus.
Protect your peace.

Because what you allow around you
is what you eventually become.

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Final Thought

Not everyone deserves access to you.

And learning that
might be the most important upgrade you ever make.

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Let’s build this life the right way.

— Ángel Luis López
The Nomad Build – UNSHAKEN

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